On February 21st, Ben’s birthday, I’m kicking off a year of SAOKs (Small Acts of Kindness) with a 21-Day custom KindSpring challenge that I’ll be writing this month. Here’s the blurb about it and the link:
Ben Archer’s 35th Birthday Year of Kindness
My son Ben has been missing since March 2, 2016. It will soon be three years since he disappeared. My friends here on KindSpring know the story. I want to do something different this year besides sit home and grieve. Starting on February 21st, Ben’s birthday, I will be doing 365 days of Small Acts of Kindness (SAOKs). This 21-day challenge is an invitation to you to help me kick it off. These small acts of kindness can be directed to family, friends, strangers, pets, or even to you. They can be digital, homemade, snail mail, service or gift. I hope to bring a little joy and light into someone’s life every single day. I also want get the word out about Ben to as many people as possible. So maybe this isn’t just about kindness. It’s also about hope. Every time someone new sees Ben’s face, I hope they will say, “Oh I saw him yesterday. He’s alive and well.” Until he is home again, safe at last, this will be my hope and prayer. Thank you for joining me if you do. ♥.
All welcome. Along with each SAoK I’ll be handing out buttons as well as a card with contact information on the back. See Gems 5.20 for more information.
December 13, 2018
I created this^ video yesterday to help get the word out about Ben.
It is set to two songs we loved and all sang together a lot, “Wheel in the Sky” and “Lights” both by Journey. I used photos from his life, from age -3 months when I was pregnant with him in Kenosha, WI, to the last photo of him I took and the last place he was seen.
It includes many photos he shared with me for under1000skies.
Another song I play often when I think of him that helps is “Don’t Stop Believing.” I won’t.
Please share with your social media if you like or friends.
I appreciate every single person who has shared Ben’s poster, sent prayers and good thoughts, and kind notes of encouragement over the years.
I’ll never be able to repay you, but I promise to continue to pay your kindness forward.
With so much gratitude,
♥. Niki Flow
November 27, 2018 was Day 1000.
November 28, 2018. I am done counting days. It was killing my heart to come here every day to increase this number. One day is too long. One thousand days…I’ve no doubt you love someone and can imagine how difficult it might be. Thank you for your visit.
If you are here, please share Ben’s link and poster; or, say a prayer or send peaceful thoughts to all of us who love him.
When this number stops climbing and he is home again, safe at last, you’ll know. The celebration of his return will light the world.
♡. Micky O”Toole (Niki Flow)
On March 2, 2016 my son Ben Archer disappeared. Many people love Ben, and we all miss him. So over the years I have tried to keep everyone up to date on the news of the case, whenever there is news.
Today I realized that many people need fast information and a way to find it quickly. So this new page will be where I keep updates from now on about our Benjamin instead of having them scattered on different blogs and different pages.
This is also a place where I will share the links to anything I have written or will write, when grief and fear and hope need an outlet. If you love someone who is missing, you will understand this need to express these huge emotions. If you ever want to talk, contact me any time.
Please pass Ben’s Missing Person Case Link (<– NEW URL) to everyone you know.
These photos below were taken at the last place we saw Ben, Dupont State Park in Delaware City, c.Noon, March 2, 2016.
2016 MARCH 05: Gems Photographer (My Son) In Danger* 05: My Son Is Missing - Update March 5th* 06: Missing Son - Gems Photographer - Update March 6* 07: Day 5 - Short Version: No News* 10: Day 8 - Keep Going Mom* 11: Day 9 - Missing Son/Gems Photographer/No News* 12: Day 10 - Ben, Day 10 - Gratitudes* 13: Ben's Vision (Day 11, 13 Gratitudes* 14: Day 12: No News* 15: Day 13: 15 Gratitudes* 16: Missing Benjamin 14 | 16 (Congressman John Carney) 17: Missing Benjamin: Day 15 18: Missing Benjamin: Day 16 18: /gems* 17: Easter Morning, Mary's Song (2016) APRIL 03: Living Arrows (One Month, One Day) 19: "The earth is like a child..." (Day 49) 20: "Plant your own garden..." (Day 51) 21: "It's not your job..." (Day 51) 22: "Live in such a way..." (Day 52) 25: "When food is prepared..." (Day 55) 26: "A friend is someone who knows..." (Day 56) 27: "Do you know what people really want..." (Day 57) 28: "You have it easily in your power..." (Day 58/"Dear Ben") 29: "Today I choose life..." (Day 59/"Dear Ben") MAY 01: "Our main business is not..." (Two Months/"Dear Ben") 04: "You've probably noticed..." (Dear Ben) 06: "I am not afraid of storms..." (Dear Ben) 09: "Forgiveness doesn't excuse..." (Dear Ben) 10: "Be realistic. Expect a miracle." (Dear Ben) 12: "The journey of a thousand miles..." (All My Children) 13: "Not to spoil the ending..." (Dear Kelly) 20: "Friday's Child"(Ben spotted a month ago...") 24: "Talent without discipline..." 25: "Wouldn't this old world be better..." (Dear Ben) 26: "The best way to have a good idea..." (Dear Ben) 28: Friday's Child 2: "Summer Again" (Dear Ben) 31: "Some people..." (Dear Ben) June 01: "He who cannot howl..." Out of Flippin' Nowhwere (Fear) 02: "I have two kinds of problems..." (Dear Ben) 03: Friday's Child 3: "The beginning of the end..." (Dear Ben) 06: "...all that is left is original love." (Dear Ben) (to be continued)
2017 JANUARY 01: under1000skies - A History 15: For Ben (Kelly's Video to Ben)
MAY 18: Miss This Guy (Kelly's vid of Uncle Ben and Evie from 2014)
2018 February 2: Hollowing March 3: Two Years May 10: I Can Never Repay You 13: Sunlit Dreams 16: A Gathering of the Tribe June 3: Pablo and Benjamin 18: Reverence: Food ☼ Fire ☼ Fear November 6: 1000 Days December 2: Strong Enough 13: My Benny (Video) 31: Thank You, Gentle Stranger 2019 January 13: Keening 25: Gems 5.19 February 4: Gems 5.20
Ben was one of our top contributing photographers for under1000skies. If you type “Ben Archer” into the search box here (or click that link) you’ll see all the photos he shared during his trip around the United States in 2015. Ben’s companion during his 2015 trip, Contessa (Tessa) Brown, was also another generous and gifted photographer, and her photos coincide with that time. The beautiful photo on the banner for this page was taken by Tessa.
Homeless or Nomadic
Ben was homeless by choice, or “nomadic” as he preferred to call it, when he traveled in 2015. During his travels, he had money, a car, and friends he traveled with.
Where Is My Son?
When Ben left on that cold morning, March 2, 2016, he had nothing on him but the clothes he wore (grey yoga pants and a striped thin cotton polo), and he was alone. No wallet, no shoes, no jacket. Everything is still in his room here. He went to the park, and the last time his younger brother and my husband saw him, Ben was at the park, meditating by the river. He promised to be home in an hour.
The Delaware State Police and Delaware City Police did a search the morning after he disappeared, immediately after I filed the Missing Person Report. They used dogs, men, thermal scans and even helicopters to check the river in the search for him. They found nothing. It was as if he got sucked off the face of the earth. There have been possible sightings since then, but only in early days and none were ever confirmed.
It recently passed Day 800 since we saw him last. When time, health and stamina allow, I will put a day-by-day chronology of every post about Ben since then.
Thank you for your interest. I’m grateful for everyone who has shared Ben’s poster and for their prayers and kind support. Please pass Ben’s Missing Person Case Link (<– NEW URL) to everyone you know. My mother’s heart will never let me do anything but hope, and so I believe he is well and living a new adventure. So if you do see him, please tell him to call his mom.